Age, self-image & vanity

Jul 21 2008  | Views 354 |  Comments  (20)
Gawky, girlishly gawky. Most young gals in the late teens look that – unable, due to immature ... Expand

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  ixedoc posted 2 weeks ago

dear supriya,
ther is little diference in human persona, be it a teen or a 'has been' dean...age makes no concession to vanity
regards, ixedoc



  supriyad posted 2 weeks ago

Like teacher, like student :-) We're all but, human, eh? :-)

Congrats at being the Dean :D-)



  ixedoc posted 3 weeks ago

dear Dr Bhopi, 
good to hear that all among us undergo this Identity Crisis and it is not limited to a senile sixty  like me, trying to cling on to the last few starnds of black hair....to retain sanity
regards, ixedoc



  ixedoc posted 3 weeks ago

dear roba,
sorry for the belated response - I am stuck with exam duty. About your theory on BF, let me add my bit on it. My analysis of this phenomenon tells a different tale: usually, a gawky lass suddenly discovers she has it all and needs to metamorphose and does - to become a decked up lissome beauty - then one day, she falls for dsomeone or the vic eversa, and sooner than not, I find she slowly starts dowplaying her assets, less make up, less revealing attire, less 'center of attraction' techniques. 
Now how come, this reversal? Well, for one, I have always found, the new guy i her life, usually gets J and possessive, and starts laying down a few ground rules- one of the primary being, now that you are mine, there is no need to wear or sport things that attract attention. So 'MIss Swan', reverts to becoming once again an Ugly Ducling just to please her guy. 
If the affair breraks up, she is back to flaunting her ssts - its a hard life for teens roba. 
regards, ixedoc



  Dr Bhopi posted 3 weeks ago

ha ha ha! good one, sir! I so agree! I remember myself during my pre med days and also when I had just entered med school, I thought I was so dowdy, with no dress sense or fashion sense!
 Looking good in photos was such a necessity, that  ..hehhehe...I know of some, who used to pray " god, please let me look good in the photo"!!!! haha
And ofcourse there were the 'beauties" of the class, so prim and proper in their appearances...:) who had learnt the 'art' much before!
Thankfully, I have improved in my choice of apparel and accessories...:p

ps-It feels sad that my new passport contains an 'ordinary' photo( clicked in a hurry) !!!!



  roba posted 3 weeks ago

Doc, did you check to find out if she had brought her new possession, her BF in tow???
If it is streaked, colored hair, kohl-lined eyes with Mascarad lashes and orthodontically aligned teeth and rouged cheeks, it must b a new BF.

Trust me, you can't prove me wrong...Afterall, I was a teenager too!!!



  ixedoc posted 4 weeks ago

dear Bhik Matre,
And there is a common tendency too to make oneself look eighteen to enter 'adult only' movie theaters - its all hilarious really, how we go about wanting to look older sometimes and desperate to look younger at other time
regards, ixedoc



  ixedoc posted 4 weeks ago

dear Naval Langa,
Not so much an Identity Crisis as wanting to hold onto a familiar identity - name, face, possessions, one gets used to somethings and is loath to allow for change. The strength to let go when then time comes, is uncommon
regards, ixedoc



  Bhiku Matre posted 4 weeks ago

Dear Doc : You make a good point, as we age we look for ways to reverse the aging process while the youngsters are in a rush to grow up - I know some teenagers want to look older so that they may enter into Bars and Pubs but I guess we all have our own reasons.



  NAVAL LANGA posted 4 weeks ago

Dear Dr. Kumar,

Identity crisis is the major hurdle in development of self, sometimes. Only those persons who succeed in resolving this crisis could be ready to face challenges. And it may well be recurring, too, as the changing situations demand us to constantly redefine ourselves. So a level-headedness is paramount for the overall development of the self.

Naval Langa





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